Apho izinto ezikhe zabantwana

Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abadala ngokubonakala yokoyika uyazehlisa, ukuba ingabi namdla womntwana. Bona babeqhele ukucinga esisiso, kunzima ukuqonda ukuba kakhulu iinkxalabo usana ngenxa elandelayo "podkrovatnogo rhamncwa." Ngoko ke, abazali uthobe abantwana babo isengqiqweni kuphela nembono yabo, uthetha: ozinzisiweyo, akukho (ngokwe Child) yeziqinisekiso kwanezilo azikho. omama amaninzi udiniwe kunye zooyise zakoonyana akukho mfuneko ukuba zizakhele ububhanxa yaye ngokukhawuleza usiya kulala, nkqu eqonda indlela yokwenene 'silo sikhulu' umntwana wabo.

Ingozi indiva uloyiko

Eso simo sengqondo ke ngeke sikwazi uloyiko zabantwana, phezu koko, ukuba kukhule kubo. Maxa wambi, kuya kuchaphazela umntwana. Oqhele ukuba isiqalekiso yakhe kwaye ukujongelwa, itakane yima nje bekhalaza kwaye luvaleka ngokwayo. Kodwa musa ukulibala malunga kukoyika Ungakhathazeki iya kuba yedwa, engayazi apho ukufumana ukhuseleko. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, abangenatyala yokoyika emnyama okanye ezeza ubudala esongela ngokuqatsela ibe yokoyika ngokwenene. Ilungiswe ukuze umntu akabi sayikhumbula indalo yakhe yokuqala, ukoyika siyakuqhuba silandela ubomi wayo omdala yonke ixhoba.

Icandelo ngokweemvakalelo

Kutheni ukuba baqonde apho kukho uloyiko ebantwaneni? Ikakhulu ukuze akwazi ukuphendula ngokufanelekileyo kulo. Ukuqonda isizathu - linyathelo lokuqala endleleni eya kwetu. Ngenxa yokuba kubalulekile ukuba uthethe nomntwana wakho, phulaphula ngenyameko kuye yaye bazame ukufumanisa ukuba yintoni ebangela le okanye uloyiko. Ngapha koko, njengokuba nisazi, thina asoyiki yobumnyama, nokuba yintoni na.

Ukoyika yenye inamandla yabantu iimvakalelo abangakwaziyo phantsi. Ukubhenca bobabini abantwana kunye nabantu abadala. Kwaye ke amandla ndiziva komntu akuxhomekekanga ekuzithandeleni unobangela imvelaphi (oko ngengqondo okanye wokwenene). Kwanokuba kubonakala ukuba ukoyika abantwana ngayo izilwanyana ecingelwayo izinto ezikhe abadala nabungozi kakhulu ngakumbi, akunjalo.

Zasabela ingozi kuthi bonke efanayo. ukukhululwa Instant kungena igazi inani elininzi adrenaline kubangela hormone ngokwenene yokwanda emzimbeni. Yokugqibela kuquka na imvakalelo engcono ngokweemvakalelo. Wonke kanye (nangona eneneni - amaxesha amaninzi kuthi hayi) bafumana i imvakalelo krakra xa umzimba kwabonakala lubopha, paralyzes, yaye intliziyo ukulungele ungatsiba esifubeni sakhe. Umzimba yenzelwe ukuze abantu abakwazi ukulwa ixesha elide ngemvo uloyiko. Ngoko ke, asifanele abayithintelayo aze aphelise.

Iintlobo uloyiko ebantwaneni. Ukwesaba ukuba yedwa

Enye le iqhelekileyo ukoyika elilolo. Kwaye musa ukucinga ukuba amava anawo kuphela iye kakhulu ibisencinane abantwana. Enyanisweni, omnye umboniso ezinjalo - ukuba omnye, njengoko ilizwi self-kulondolozwe, nto leyo ziphuhliswa ingakumbi kakuhle abantwana. Uloyiko ubulolo ngazo ngokwayo kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi. Kunyanzela abantwana ukuba ukhathazeke ngenxa yonyango oomama amava ixhala kunye nobunzima ngokwasemphefumlweni ngaphandle unakekelo kunye nenkxaso.

Xa ngeminyaka oselula onjalo ke ngumama ufuzisela ukhuseleko kwiingozi zehlabathi ngaphandle, ngoko ke ukungabikho kwalo ngumba omkhulu kwakubuhlungu ebantwaneni. Ngokwemvelo, benawe ngokwabo kuyo xa iyonke. Kwaye kuphela ubudala xa abantwana sele ziqala ukuba baqonde baze bahlole ihlabathi, uloyiko eyoonyana elilolo buthelezi. Oku kudla kwenzeka kwiminyaka emibini okanye emithathu.

Ukoyika abangabazi

Enye noloyiko ezinxulumene nabantu abangabazi. Ukusuka kwindawo zebhayoloji lwembono, Kuyinto lilungisa: umntwana esoyika into abangayaziyo. Kulo mzekelo - abasemzini, leyo zisenokuba abangela ukuba ububi. Kubomi, le noloyiko wabonakalaliswa neentloni, ukungafuni lokubulisa umakazi "umbhalo", bezama ukufihla emva kunina. Oku kwenzeka xa loomntu ngokuzolileyo izizathu umntwana ukuba owasemzini akazange enze nantoni na embi.

Ukoyika abasemzini kwakhona lwenzeka kwi besebancinane kakhulu. Yena kakhulu sibi. Itakane abakwazi ukuthatha unonophelo yena, ngokunjalo indalo undiphe kuye umnqweno ukunqanda ingozi. Ngu iinyanga ezintandathu ubudala uloyiko aba bantwana ngcembe kudambe. Abantwana baqala ngomoya basabela njani ubukho abasemzini.

Ukoyika kwezidalwa wengqikelelo

Ngeminyaka emithathu abantwana ngenkuthalo uhlola okusingqongileyo, baqhelane awohluke zehlabathi enkulu. Kulo mzekelo, Asinakuyenza ngaphandle iikhathuni, iincwadi kunye neentlobo ngeentlobo imifanekiso. Ngeli xesha, kaninzi abantwana uloyiko ezinxulumene izidalwa wasentsomini, ngokufuthi athathwe kwezinye Drama of Creation. Maxa wambi - ebekwa kukungakhathali kwabazali. Imeko yokugqibela, umzekelo, ukuba kaninzi ngokwaneleyo khorwisaka bathi umntwana baluyuschemusya ukuba uya igqwirha ongendawo.

De kweminyaka uloyiko emithathu zisekelwe ngakumbi wemvelo kunye noloyiko lwabantu wasentsomini - akukho ngaphandle. Asimele silibale ukuba ihlabathi kwamnandi wosana kubonakala ukuba real kakhulu. ixesha ngasinye, scaring isimilo sakhe kwemoto, abazali benze umntwana kakhulu phele ubomi babo kunye nezempilo.

Ukuba sithule

Nokuba ke, xa kunjalo, musa lokukhathalela imeko nangokweemvakalelo umntwana. Ukuba esoyika into, kufuneka ambuze ngenyameko. Kwaye nkqu ngcono - idini draw kwaye ngoko wawabuza kwidayrektri, iinyembezi okanye alahlele ngokuthi ngoko "uloyiko". Kubalulekile ukuba usana bazive kukhuselwa, wayesazi ukuba kwakuza kufuneka babuyele uncedo ndithi lonke ibali.

Awukwazi bahleka ukoyika womntwana, ngoyaba okanye ukubona ebonakalayo. Kunoko, ngomoya uchazele umntwana wakho kutheni kufuneka ibe nguye ukoyika kuyo, bafumane indlela woyisa uloyiko. Ke umntwana akayi kuziva zingenamandla. Kwakhona kwi ukuthambekela ukoyika kakhulu echaphazela iintsapho, ingakumbi phakathi kwabazali. Esi sesinye sezizathu ezibangela uxabana uze ucacise ubudlelwane kufuneka athathe indawo ngaphandle kwendawo ingqalelo umntwana.