Yintoni na ubuhlobo oyedwa, amalungelo abo kunye nobubi

Nangona isibakala sokuba thina ngabantu afanelekileyo, sisoloko Uwole iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo, banyamezele ezo bonke. Sithetha malunga uvakalelo olumangalisayo olo, ezifana nothando, ukuba uyotywe ngumntu kwaye yenza ukuba benze izinto maxa wambi ezingalindelekanga. Kusengqiqweni ukugqiba kubudlelane ngempumelelo naye ke emtshatweni, emva koko indoda nomfazi kuphela yini omnye komnye.

ubudlelwane oyedwa i intsebenziswano enjalo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, nto leyo kuyo nayiphi na imeko awukuvumeli ukuba kungenzeka ewolo okanye uthando ulwalamano nomnye umntu. Ibe phezu kwesi siseko, igcina intsapho ukuba iyunithi kuphela oluntu, kodwa kwakhona indawo apho abantwana bazalwa kunye eyabakhulisayo. Ngoko ke, ulwalamano yokwenene phakathi kwendoda nomfazi kufuneka zisekelwe kuphela uthando nentlonelo.

Noko ke, ngokutsho bengqondo, elowo ukulungele ukuba nolwalamano oyedwa, ngokuba kuyimfuneko ukuba akhule ukuya kweli nqanaba. Ebuncinaneni Ekuqaleni, uninzi lwabantu abatsha, njengokuba umthetho, kukho ubudlelwane ezininzi yothando kunye namantombazana ezahlukeneyo, ngenxa yokuba indoda ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuba lize kugxothela iimvakalelo zabo. Namhlanje, yena uthanda intombazana, ngomso - yenye, kunye nokungabikho yamava nokuzimisela ikhokelela ubuhlobo phezulu. Ebutsheni bakhe akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngaloo nto, kuba sohlala kweli xesha lo mntu ufuna umphefumlo iqabane lakho, nto leyo eza ukuchitha ubomi bam. Nangona kunjalo, ngeli xesha kokuba mawubekwe bakha nobudlelwane abantu omnye komnye. Kwixesha elizayo, ukuba izimvo zabo ziya kuqinisekisa izenzo kwimeko elinikiweyo. Ngoko ke, Kakade ke, malunga nokwenzeka yokuhlangana kwixesha elizayo, omnye umntu, ngubani na zazidlala uya uqale ukuthandana nomntu ezinxulumene ngomtshato. Ngoko ke, kuya kubaluleka kakhulu ukuba nesimo sengqondo ubomi kumntu imeko enjengaleyo umgaqo.

Kwilizwe lethu, kukholelwa ngokubanzi ukuba ubudlelwane oyedwa, zisisiseko efanele nezinesidima. Xa sithatha eMpuma amaninzi amazwe Muslim, kukho kuvunyelwa imitshato yesithembu, oko kukuthi, xa umntu omnye atshate ngokusemthethweni abafazi eziliqela. Eyona umdla kukuba uninzi abafazi eMpuma bayavumelana le miba, kuba ukholo Muslim ivumela abantu ukuba abafazi ukuya ku-4.

Kumazwe aseYurophu kunye Amerika ngokusemthethweni zibonakaliswa kuphela ubudlelwane oyedwa ezivumela izibini ukuba isimo kuphela omnye nomnye. Noko ke, ubomi benene, ngelishwa, yi ni swikombiso xa indoda okanye umfazi ukutshintsha isiqingatha sayo sesibini, i izizathu inokuba nomahluko ngokupheleleyo. Kukho iimeko apho umntu ukuze nje akanakuhendeka intombazana enomtsalane okanye mhlawumbi ngempazamo atshintshe wakhe umfazi, ukuba kwimo ukunxila okanye utywala. Ngelo xesha kukho uhlobo amadoda abo enganeliswa kunye nomfazi omnye, yaye kwenzeke kwixesha elizayo kunye namanye amantombazana ngaphandle indawana yesazela. Kakade ke, le mizekelo ibonisa iimeko ezahlukeneyo kakhulu ewolo, ngoko ke indlela kwiimeko ezinjalo kufuneka ezahlukeneyo.

Kufuneka uqonde ukuba wonke umntu ngathi ubudlelwane oyedwa, abantu abanjalo akugxininisi usapho. Injongo yabo kukuba indlela yobomi inika ithuba lokudibana nabantu ezahlukeneyo, kuba abanye oko nkqu ngumbono olungileyo. Xa sithatha udidi enjalo ngabantu, njengoko iimbongi, ababhali, iimvumi kunye namagcisa, imizekelo babo ubomi xelela nje ukuba abaninzi kubo waba amabali "kwicala". Kufuneka uqonde ukuba umfazi mntu uhlobo Ndithelekelele, likhuthaze izenzo nje ezahlukeneyo, kunye ukuphumeza iincopho ezithile zokudala. Ngoko ke, ulwalamano phakathi kwabantu imisebenzi yokudala idla yingxenye tangle entsonkothileyo, ukuze aqonde ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kunzima.

Eshwankathela zonke ngasentla, sinokugqiba ukuba ubudlelwane babantu abanzi kakhulu kwaye ezahlukeneyo ukuba bafunde yaye baqonde ukubaluleka ukufunda ixesha elide kwi-Faculty of Applied Psychology. ukuqonda ukuba kunjalo akunakwenzeka ukwenza izigqibo and fast, umgwebe isenzo lomntu - Eyona nto ibalulekileyo. Kakade ke, ngamnye kuthi ukuba ubudlelwane oyedwa kufuneka ube ngumzekelo ubomi enesidima kunye efanelekileyo, kodwa endleleni eze kuzo imigibe ukuze soyise yeyiphi umntu kufuneka akhokelwe yimigaqo yokuziphatha nokukholwa.