Yintoni ekhohlakeleyo? Oku akunelisekile

Yintoni ekhohlakeleyo? Ngaba ndimele ndimxolele? Okanye ngaba kufanelekile ngonaphakade ukuphula ulwalamano? Yintoni enokuyenza ukuze ungalokothi ujongane nale nto? Kukho imibuzo emininzi, iphazamisayo kunye namantombazana amancinci, kunye nabasetyhini abaneminyaka emibini. Ungayiphendula le mibuzo, kodwa okokuqala kufuneka uqonde ukuba igama elithi "ukukhohlakala" lithetha ngesiRashiya.

Izichazili zithi ukunyaniseka kukungagcinwa kwezibophelelo. Ezi zibophelelo zingabhalwa (isifungo, izivumelwano, isatifiketi somtshato , njl.) Okanye ngomlomo.

Kungenxa yokutolika okunjalo kwelizwi ukuba abanye abaxhamli banamathele kubhedlele abangaziwayo. "Andizange ndimthembise nantoni na," kutsho uCasanova ongenalwazi nokuqhatha intombi yakhe nentombi yakhe.

Oku, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kukukhohlisa, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akubi. Akukho imfuneko yokwenza izibhambathiso ngokuvakalayo. Ngokulula thina, bafazi, kholelwa ukuba ukuba ubudlelwane kunye neqabane lihlala ixesha elide, ukuba umntu uyasitshela indlela esiyithandayo ngayo, ekugqibeleni, ukuba silala naye, ngoko umcebise ukuba athembeke. Siyathemba ukuba xa iqabane licinga ngokungafaniyo, ubuncinane uya ku lumkisa malunga nalo, uchaze umbono wakhe.

Yintoni ekhohlakeleyo? Isenzo esinyanyekayo. Imiphumo yayo ixabana, iinyembezi, ngamanye amaxesha ukuphazamiseka kwemiba kunye nokwakhiwa kwengcamango eqhubekayo yokuba "bonke abantu bangabo ...", kwaye "bonke abasetyhini ba ...".

Ngaba kunjalo? Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukukopela umntu oqhelekileyo ufana nokukhohlisa intombazana. Ezi zibalo zididekile. Kodwa ngaba ukutshutshiswa kuyasitshela ukuba iqabane okanye iqabane lingumntu onyanyekayo? Hayi njalo.

Ukuze uphendule umbuzo wobugwenxa, ungakuphepha njani, kufuneka uqonde izizathu zalo msebenzi.

Kukho uluvo lokuba kukho ezininzi izizathu zokuhlaselwa. Oku kunyanisekileyo. Ngokwengxenye, kuba ekuqulunqwe nasiphi na isizathu sokuba kukho ukunganeliseki ". Ekungcatshiseni kugxotha ukunganeliseki ngobomi besondo, ukungabikho kwengqwalasela, ukungaqiniseki kwixesha elizayo. Utshintsho lubangela ukunganeliseki ngobudlelwane, rhoqo kunye nokuxabana okukhulu. Ubuqhetseba bamadoda bubonisa ukungaqiniseki kwabo ngokwabo.

Inzululwazi kuzo zonke ihlabathi zafika kwisigqibo sokuba ukuba abo babini beqabane bahloniphana, ukuba banelisekile ngobomi babo besondo kunye nendlela yokuphila (kholani mna, oku kubalulekile!), Ukuba bayakwazi ukuphulaphula nokuqonda, umngcipheko wokungcatsha kwiimbini zibini usondela ngokukhawuleza. Kuzo.

Ngaba kuyimfuneko ukuxolela ukuxolelwa okanye kulungele ngokukhawuleza ukuphula ulwalamano? Umntu ngamnye kufuneka afumane impendulo yakhe. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo, zama ukunyamekela kwiimeko, ukufumanisa isizathu esenza isicatshulwa sakho sokunyaniseka.

Ngokwemisebenzi yomsebenzi wam, ndathetha kakhulu ngamadoda kwesi sihloko, esibakhathazayo abangaphantsi kwabasetyhini. Kwaye ziziphi izigqibo endandizifumanayo.

Amadoda amaninzi, evakalelwa ukungathandabuzeki kwabo kwintsebenziswano, zama ukuzithiba ngecala. Iibhedi ezingakumbi abaye bazityelela zona, ziba nesibindi ngakumbi emehlweni abo.

Abanye bacacisa ukunyeliswa kwabo ngomsebenzi wokusebenza. Uthando luye lwadlula, bathi, ndandithandana kakhulu nomnye, kodwa andiyi kumshiya umfazi wam, kuba sasihlala naye ixesha elide (kukho abantwana). Esi sinesizathu esingenanto, esoloko sibonisa ukuba indoda ayikwazi ukwenza izigqibo. Inyaniso yokuba uyabalisa ubuhlungu bobabini abafazi, lo mbono awucingi nje.

Ewe, le mpawu ihlazo. Kodwa, bafazi abathandekayo, khumbula ukuba udlulile kangakanani umyeni wakho (umfana, iqabane, umlingane, intombi)? Unamaxesha amaninzi unayo "intloko" kwixesha elincinane kakhulu? Ubonise ixesha elide kangakanani ububele bakho, ulungelelanise imimangaliso eyimigangatho? Mhlawumbi, ngokuqhelekileyo, kumfazi onothando, umfazi onomsebenzi kunye nomhlobo othembekileyo, uba "grymzu", "saw" okanye "umncinci"?

Bantu abathandekayo, khumbula, awuzange uthathe indawo yomsebenzi wakho womfazi? Ngaba awusoloko uzilahla intombi yakho, udlala ngothando nabanye?

Cinga ngokuziphatha kwakho, zama ukulungisa, kwaye akufuneki ukuba ukhangele impendulo yombuzo malunga nento ekhohlakeleyo. Awunakuze uhlangabezane naloo mbono. Uthando, uthembeke kwaye ujabule.