Xa umntwana eqalisa abazali encumile?

Ukususela kwixesha xa abazali ukubona iziqwenga ezimbini uvavanyo lokukhulelwa kuqala, baqalise Ndinephupha loo mzuzu xa umntwana iqala encuma. Ngapha koko, oku ibinzana lokuqala lebyi iimvakalelo kuya kubanceda ukuba zibe kufutshane usana. Ngoko ke, abadala kangaka ukuba ukubamba naluphi na utshintsho baby ubuso ibinzana ukuphupha kunokuba uthi, "Wancuma apha kum!" Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe ukuze kukhawuleziswe ixesha elifunekayo?

sengqondo esihle

Yinto eyaziwayo ukuba abantwana bakhula bonwabile kwiintsapho onwabe, apho bayathandwa kwaye lilulutho. Ukuba manyano ku pair eqhelekileyo liceba ukuba wakhulelwa kwaye zinika. Kwaye ukuba ibakala Palsy umntwana azive kuyimfuneko, kuya kuba lula ukuba abe obonwabisayo ochwayithileyo. Xa sithetha nge umntwana ngaphambi kokuba azalwe, akakwazi noko ukuqonda intsingiselo yegama ngalinye, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uzive uthando nemfudumalo. Kukholelwa ukuba usana kulula ukuba uve ithowuni elisezantsi ilizwi likayise, kwaye nelizwi nomama wam esiva kancinci ophambene. Ngoko ke, kunyanzelekile ukuba nguyise elizayo xa ukudibana rhoqo olungekazalwa. Kwaye emva kokuba usana, ekugqibeleni, ukubona ukukhanya, unxibelelwano kuba kubaluleke nangakumbi kuye. Umntwana walahlekelwa ukhuselo yakhe, waba iinyanga ezilithoba. Yena yedwa, yaye zintshula kweli hlabathi, ukuba ungafumana, hayi kuphela kunina, leyo lonke eli xesha ekwabelwana onke amava, ukutya, uvuyo kunye iintsizi, kodwa uyise, ilizwi lakhe yena ababezivile ikhunjulwe. Ke kaloku umntwana eqalisa ukuba ndincume, uncumo lwakhe lokuqala wayeza kunikela abazali bobabini.

Yintoni ukwenza ntoni?

Kukho izinto ezininzi kangangokuba umntwana ukufundisa nabani na. Ngoko ke, ootitshala babethelele ukufunda nokubhala, oontanga kuya kuba naye ukuba xhuma, baleka kudlala hide and afune. Omnye kuphela, lo nto ibalulekileyo iza kuba nako ukunika yena nabantu kuphela lomthonyama - uthando. Ngaphezu koko, kusenokwenzeka ukuba afundise mba kuphela abantu, ngomzekelo, ukunyamekela umntwana wakho uthando lwakho yonke imihla, umzuzu zonke. Xa encuma umntwana, uyaqonda ukuba ihlabathi elikhulu yaye angaqhelekanga ezifana ngeenxa kunokuba nobubele nokuthantamisa. Qiniseka ukuba ukuthetha kangangoko kunokwenzeka uncumo umntwana kunye namagama nokuthantamisa embongoza ukunxibelelana.

Uncumo lokuqala

Apha, ekugqibeleni, umntwana elide lulindelwe ekhaya, amalungu entsapho besemsebenzini kufuphi embhedeni wayo, elindile, xa umntwana iqala encuma. Kwaye kusenokuba kuhle ukuba uncumo izakuvela phezu kobuso encinane. Kwaye ngoko nangoko indawo yi grimace lokulila. Isibakala sokuba umntwana engaqondanga izama ukuthelekelela amabinzana ezahlukahlukeneyo iimvakalelo ukuba ubona macala. Le kulingisa de neosoznanna, mayingabi sakhululwa kuthiwa uncumo ngengqiqo ngokupheleleyo ilizwi, kuba akukho awenzayo imvakalelo ngokupheleleyo. uncumo Real enokulindelwa eneminyaka eli-1 - iinyanga ezi-2. Kwaye ngoko ke usana encumile rhoqo, efuna ukufumana umva isipho - a friendly uncumo interlocutor. Ngoko ke ufunda ukunxibelelana nabanye, yaye le nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba yonke yobomi bakhe kamva.

Xa umntwana eqalisa ukuba encuma, abantu abadala bona ekugqibeleni ukuba indoda encinane uyayiqonda kubo, ukuphendula uvakalelo iimvakalelo. Le - inyathelo lokuqala encinane malunga ukuqonda, nto leyo kuza inene kwintsapho ivumelane ne enobubele.