Wothando - ngubani na le nto?

njani ufowunela indoda wathanda abafazi abaninzi? Ilizwi livela kubaphulaphuli: "Ububele - yinto inkcazelo evumelana yena." Ngokuqinisekileyo. Ngoku makhe ukujamelana nabo, yintoni na amadoda kunye nabasetyhini kwaye ukuba ixabiso - onothando.

iintlobo ezimbini ubudlelwane kumfazi ibe yinto kwaye njengesifundo

Phambi zonke imibala ukupeyinta oko yokubonisana (siyayiqonda kancinci emva koko), kufuneka ukuba yenze intetho methodological.

UErich Fromm wabhala umsebenzi omangalisayo, "Yibani okanye Yiba" (1976). yonke indawo yayo kukuba abantu uyakwazi kwihlabathi kunye nabanye abantu, ngokusekelwe kwiinkqubo ephikisanayo eceleni. Kwigumbi elingaphantsi kumzi omnye - ingqalelo ilifa, xa ihlabathi kunye nabanye abantu kunye nezinto kuphela kubonakala izixhobo ukuze baphumeze iinjongo zabo womntu. Enye ibandakanya ulungelelwaniso kunye nokuba, xa zonke element yehlabathi kubonwa liqabane ngokupheleleyo. Enyanisweni, ukuba zahluke kakhulu ilula: omnye kuxhaswe luthando ( "ukuba"), lo gama enye ufuna kuphela kulawula uze ufumane ( "ukuba"). Bexhotyiswe ngolwazi oluyimfuneko yeengcingane, size impendulo kumbuzo ngothando - ngubani na le nto?

Henk Mudi umzekelo umntu othanda abafazi ngokwenene

A umfanekiso ecacileyo hero of "Californication" kuya kukunceda uqonde abantu awuyithandi i inkcazelo ngubani na umntu onothando yenzululwazi. Hank abasetyhini abaninzi kunye bonke bephela akuthandayo ngendlela yakhe. Kwixesha lokuqala anayo ukuya emngcwabeni bukayise, yena, njengesiqhelo iifilimu, nozintyintya ezingqondweni ngaye. Phakathi kwezinye izinto, unyana ka a ngokucacileyo uva apha entloko amazwi kayise: "Bonke abafazi Ndakhe ndadibana, ndandikuthanda. Umntu eyi-10 ubudala, yaye umntu imizuzu eli-10. " Mhlawumbi - kwenkcazelo ibalaseleyo ngothando, nto leyo kunikwa.

Kwelinye icala, Hank akhanyele nayiphi ukufana kuyise nokuba into, uziphatha ngendlela efanayo. Uyakuthanda abafazi ngendlela ngokunyanisekileyo yaye ngenxa yothando, ecela nto mbuyekezo. Njengoko usazi, uTshawe buka- uyise oko wazinika unina wakhe. Ndicinga emva oku akuzukuba yingxaki, onothando - ngubani na le nto? Onke acacile. Sekunjalo, ndithanda ukunixelela nani ngale ndoda-nkonzo.

Alphonse - ohlala ngeendleko kwabafazi

Ingqalelo nani, nangona ngokwemveli uphawu ubunyani Russian, kodwa maxa wambi kwenzeka. Ngelo xesha langoku, xa ugalelwe iinqobo ezisemgangathweni, amadoda ukuba yeyentombazana aze bobusana, yaye ngamanye amaxesha ukuvumela ukuba baphile, ukuthembela intombi, olu hlobo ucaca ngakumbi kwaye kaninzi. Ke ukuba kubi kangangokuba bekuya ukuba umntu wawuxhomekeke nabafazi ezahlukeneyo iimeko mnandi kakhulu okanye ngquzulwano ngesiquphe ebomini, kodwa hayi. Ngelishwa okanye Ngethamsanqa, kodwa ezinye ngendlela enentsingiselo yobomi.

uncwadi Classical kwakhona uyazazi iimeko ezinjalo. Ngokomzekelo singakwazi ukuthatha enye abo baphambili webali AP "Gooseberries" yaseChekhov kaThixo. Khumbula, ukuba omnye wabazalwana watshata apho osisityebi umhlolokazi uze ke ngoko uwunyusile kwelabafileyo ngenxa yamaphupha akhe - ilifa? Nantsi i kakhulu umzekelo Alphonse. Kulo mzekelo, xa sizibuze yona: "Abantu Loving - lo nto," impendulo ngu hayi, kuba uthando apha kwaye azisezeli.

Kwelinye icala, Alfonso kunokuba ngokusesikweni bavume onothando, kodwa kubo oko umgangatho isixhobo, kwaye ngobuchule bazilawule zozibini iimvakalelo zabo neemvakalelo omnye umntu.