Ungaze wenze oku ngomhla wokuqala!

Akuthandeki ukuba uya kufumana ithuba lesibini ukuba babe nesimilo lokuqala umntu. Ngexesha lentlanganiso kunye nani niya kuhlala kwinkumbulo yakhe ngonaphakade. Ngaba uphupha ukuba yonke into aya ngaphandle koqiniso, kodwa unobangela iimeko rhoqo kokuphazamisa, isiqingatha apho akuxhomekekanga phezu kwakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba wazama njani ukwehlisa phantsi iimvakalelo wena wakhonza kunye nentloko. Ngethamsanqa, izazinzulu kudala wafumanisa lonke ibali yentlanganiso ngempumelelo. Ngokutsho koqikelelo lwabemi ezahlukeneyo, kufuneka malunga 12 imizuzu ukufumana ixesha ukuba babe nesimilo esihle. Ukuze ukwazi ukuza qhinga ekunene. Kukho izinto abantu abakuthandi okanye musa bamkelekile. Zama ukuba ayenze, yaye intlanganiso yakho iya kuba "yimpumelelo enkulu", nangona imvakalelo enamandla.

Musa ukufika emva kwexesha

Kubonakala ukuba Simfumene isono ingcwaba leyo tshembiseke ezonakalisa uluvo ngawe. Kakade ke, unako kuphoswa umhla, oku asilotyala izizathu zakho. Kodwa ngaba akukwazeki ukuba ukunika ixesha elincinane eninzi okanye enze ulungiso kwemikrozo yeemoto? Ukuba uhambela kwindawo ongayazi, zama ukuba ukujonga njenge ikatana uyimfama phambili khangela phandle indlela. Ngoko ke uya kubasindisa imizuzu embalwa. Ngaba wena uzoyenza emva ngenjongo, ukubonisa nokungafumaneki zabo. Enyanisweni, la madoda basesichengeni kakhulu, engamarhoqorhoqo va nokudelela. Xa kunjalo, iqabane lakho basenokucinga ukuba ngaba ulazisa ixesha zabanye kwaye ungenakuxhomekeka. Ukuba ubala phezu ukuqhubeka uthando, ukhetho lwakho engcono kungaba ixesha. Ngaphezu koko, bafike entlanganisweni yowe-kwexesha, uya kuyisindisa indoda uchulumanco okungeyomfuneko.

Musa amanga

Yenzeka lonke ixesha. Ngomhla wokuqala abantu bafuna ukujonga ngcono kunokuba ngokwenene na. Enye uvote ema malunga ngamawaka osibhozo amadoda kunye nabafazi, wabonisa ukuba-60 ekhulwini abakholelwa ubuxoki ngomhla wokuqala yamkelekile kakhulu. Sithetha ngokufihla kwezinye iimeko, zenze kwempumelelo zabo, nokufihla lo ubudala ntiyiso okanye ubume bomtshato. Okubangel 'umdla kukuba-15 pesenti yamabhinqa vo amelwe igama elahlukileyo. Amadoda amaninzi embellish ingeniso kunye "ukuphucula" ngokwabo ezisisigxina (oku okufana amanenekazi).

Ukususela ngokombono bengqondo, esi simo Kuyaqondakala. Ngokutsho kweengcali, abantu badla ukuxokisana, ukuba uvakalelwa udibaniso ngokunzulu phakathi kwabo. Njengoko unokuthelekelela, itrasti ukungavakali nhla. Kwelinye icala, xa uqala ingxoxo ubuxoki, kuba osileyo ukulindela ukuba kwixesha elizayo uya kuba inyani kunye neqabane lakho. Ngoko ke ukuba ufuna ukwakha ubuhlobo trust, musa uqale ukuqaliswa uyajola "omncinane". Xa iqabane ifumana malunga ukuguqula izibakala, uya kubonisa ukuba ukuze ukulawula abantu. Ngamanye amaxesha ubuxoki inxulunyaniswa kubantu low self-yokumazisa ngamnye.

Yenza kuphazanyiswa

Umhla wakho kuqala, kwaye usengozini yokuba ezintsha kwimeko, ukuba nithe akabandulula ifowuni okanye kondela ezindongeni cafe babe. Kusenokwenzeka akakwazi oku, kodwa oku imiba yokuziphatha beswele wenu umdla kule ndoda. Ukusuka icala oko buqapheleke ukuya ngeliso lenyama. Kwimeko enjalo, ukuba akukwazi ukukhangela kude kwifowuni screen yeselula, babonisa ukuba kwenye indawo kukho wena ube unxibelelwano kuqala ephezulu. Ulahle ngamathemba ezilingayo sokuhlola i-imeyile, uze uyeke ukuba ujonge kumaphepha zabo omphakathi. Uya chitha iiyure le ndoda kuphela nje ezimbalwa. Ngoko ke yenza wena ayifumaneki okwethutyana bonke abanye abantu. Icebiso: ukwandisa ukufumaneka kuya kunceda yoga nokuziqhelanisa nokucamngca.

Akuyomfuneko ukumamela interlocutor

Nantsi enye into enxulumene qhinga angafuneki ukuthandana. Xa izandla zakho ayikho iselfowuni, amehlo akhe akazange ezula ejikeleza, kodwa ukhangela kwi indoda absently. Enye impazamo eqhelekileyo: ukuba ukhetha ukuthetha wena rhoqo ukuphazamisa interlocutor. Ngoko ke, nina engaqondanga ufuna ukubonisa amandla iqabane lakho ukuba ihlabathi lijikeleza kuwe. Kutheni ukudlala ubulungisa yaye musa anike elinye iqela 50 ekhulwini "ixesha lomoya"? Ukuze ukuba abe nani lula, xhobani kuziqhelisa ukuphulaphula esebenzayo. Gxininisa imiqondiso ngomlomo non-ngomlomo, sebenzisa siseko vangama (uphinda-phindo izimbo kunye namagama ambalwa iqabane). Ngamanye amazwi, zama ukuba basebenzisane ngengqiqo naloo mntu. Kungenjalo, kutheni kuvunyelwane ngosuku?

Ngaba usakhumbula ex-isoka

impazamo Huge kwakho iya kuchazwe ngomhla wokuqala iinyaniso ngaye ex-boyfriend. Ukuba ufuna ukwenza uluvo ekunene yokuqala, ukucima mandulo kwinkumbulo. Nokuba iqabane lakho wangaphambili embi kangangokuba ndayaphula intliziyo yakho, kwanabanyulwa yangoku kokungenanto malunga bazi. Le enkulu thabatha loo kwaye itsho ihlabathi ukuba iimvakalelo zisabangela ukuba alukapheli. Le ndoda, ababebuvile nakuphi na ukukhankanywa ex-lesoka, uya kucinga ukuba amgqala ukhetho yogcino eya kunceda iqaqambe wedwa yakho zinyanzelwe. Kaloku, ukuba ucinga ukuba kuzithelekisa nomnye umntu angakhetha yakho ukuzithemba entsha, bayaphazama kakhulu. Enyanisweni, it has kwesiphumo sokukhutshwa ukuqhushumba kwebhombu, apho umntu uya kulibeka kuyo igama lakho phambi kwenye isitampu "uthi izinto ezingcolileyo ngaye ex-isoka." Akazange ahendwe nethemba lokuba kulo luhlu.

Ukungavumi kulahlwa

Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku yokuqala ukhumbuleka, aura HIV eziyijikelezileyo. Yiba nethemba sincumile rhoqo. Kodwa izikhalazo kunye amazwi elimsulwa kule dilesi umntu ukuhamba naye. Nayiphi ukubonakaliswa izoyikiso waphoswa wena shadow. Nokuba awuyithandi inkonzo kwindawo yokutyela, unyathele phezu ego yakhe cwaka. Nokuba uthe babelindele ngakumbi ukusuka entlanganisweni, musa nangoko ukubonisa ulithiyile. Ukuba usoloko ufumana ngokwakho yokucinga badla uqaphele iziphene, kunokuba isidima sabantu, engeze ukuqinisekisa ukuba themba iSADC uqeqesho. Ngosuku ngalunye uyakwazi ukubhala izinto ezimnandi eyenzeke kuwe. Musa ukulibala ukubulela isiphelo zonke ezi iziyolo ezincinane.

imikhuba emibi

Umbono ofanele lokuqala kunokwenzeka ngaphandle nesimilo na. Act njengoko kufunwa yokuziphatha, musa ukulibala amazwi imbeko kunye nonyango ngobubele abasebenzi.

Amkhanuke utshwala

Ukuba ndonwabe kakhulu, akukho mfuneko kufuna uncedo nentuthuzelo iglasi yewayini. kukutya kakhulu utywala na ukupeyinta nabani. Kunokuba enkululekweni esinganyanga ngokwabo kwilahleko lokulawula amagama abo nezenzo. Oku kuya kunciphisa yoxinaniso ukukhubaza okwethutyana imisebenzi memory. Ngoko zama ukuba ukuthobela imithetho emiselweyo lezempilo ngokwahlukileyo koko uzisole ngokukrakra nokuziphatha kwabo.

kokuba ukhalaze

Ngamnye kuthi ebomini ufikelwa ezingemnandi ezinqwenelekayo kangaka ukuba bajolise ingqalelo yabanye. boss yakho inzima kakhulu, oogxa olawulo nommelwane lixelegu? Yini na ukuba niyixelele indoda malunga ubunzima yobomi bakhe? Ngaphandle kokuba uyakwazi ukusombulula yonke le ngxaki? Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uyakwazi oko kwenzekayo engqondweni yakhe, kodwa akazi ukuba lo mkhwa ukuze bajonge kwayijikeleza uvelwano kunye nokuqonda. Nokuba izikhalazo rhoqo nibe indlela yobomi, wazama ukuba balahle abanyulwa yakho inkcazelo okungafunekiyo. Lo mhla azinako kuba kwindawo yokuqala ukwenzela uphuhliso siseko yobomi bakho entsha. Funda ukuba aye ngumsindo musa ukuvumela izoyikiso abe yinxalenye ubukho bakho.

uqhayiselani

Self-ukuzithemba - imfanelo nomtsalane kakhulu obhinqileyo, kodwa musa hambanisi nge braggadocio. Akukho mntu uyakwalela ukuba neqhayiya impumelelo yabo kunye nempumelelo ngoku, kodwa musa amalungiselelo umhla wokuqala self-ntetho.

Abantu zisetyenziselwa eneqhayiya, bengaqondanga ukuyidelela yemfaneleko interlocutor. Ngoko ke ukuba ufuna ukuba ukubetha umntu, isicwangciso ilungileyo iya kuba ku titsongahata yakho.