Umtshato elifanelekileyo okanye mema kwitheko lomtshato kwabazali umtshato.

Ukuba umntwana ngabazali umtshato, mhlawumbi uya kufunda ukunxibelelana ngempumelelo kunye nabazali bobabini, nangona ngokuqhawula kwabo umtshato, kuba nangona yokuba abazali baye bayeka ukuba ngabahlobo abasondeleyo kunye nabanye - ke zonke iintsapho kunye ebalulekileyo kuwe kwangethuba.

Le ngxaki ukuze Bashushu ngokwaneleyo entlanganweni yombhiyozo yomtshato kwaye ukuba uninzi umtshato kushada - isiganeko ongavelisi ukwenzeka yonke imihla. Ndinqwenela ukuba akukho umsitho womtshato amafu, efana uncumo okuqaqambileyo ikhululekile, ukuma umfoti lomtshato, ndifuna ukuya iifoto lomtshato kunye nabazali bobabini, ndifuna ukuba ufumane umtshato ogqibeleleyo.

Noko ke, le ngxaki gxwa lihlazo. kakubi kakhulu xa kufuneka aphakame phambi kokuba bakhethe - xa umenywe kwitheko lomtshato - unina okanye uyise. Ingakumbi ukuba ukwahlulwa abazali kwakunzima gqitha, yaye akukho namnye kubo ekhohlo ukwakha ubuhlobo entsha komnye umntu. Le meko kwiimeko ezininzi ezibuhlungu kakhulu.

Imveliso kule meko Kucacile - eyona nto ibalulekileyo ukuba sinyaniseke. Ziyacelwa iinqununu ukuba baxoxe le meko kunye omabini amaqabane. Ungafowunela ukuba ibhunga nosapho. Kwakho kuya kuba yimfuneko yonke ngokunyaniseka ubushushu, onokuwatshintsha, ukwenza kucace ukuba inkoliso yawo zibiza kakhulu abantu ehlabathini - kumama notata - njengoko kungekho omnye kubo theko lakho umtshato unokuba usithe uloyiso ngesandi esiphantsi imini ebalulekileyo kuwe.

Kholelwa ukuba abazali abanothando kuya kukukhawulela, nkqu nangona ukuba ngaba ukunxibelelana iminyaka emininzi yaye angathanda ukunxibelelana nabanye uthando nokuba 400 leminyaka ubudala ukuba uya kubanika amandla ukudala kumtshato imvakalelo yakho intsapho, uxolo, uvuyo nolonwabo.

Nangona kunjalo, oko akuthethi buhlungu ukuba batyumbe umntu onoxanduva abanyamekela abazali bakho kulo mbhiyozo yomtshato. Oku mhlawumbi isalamane wakho okanye umhlobo wakho osenyongweni kakhulu. Eyona nto iphambili ukuba umntu uyakwazi ngexesha uqaphele, kunokutshiseka zikhula kunye nexesha ukupholisa imbambano ekhulayo.

Le ezincinane kuphela kulo mzekelo kukuba lombutho umtshato kubhetele ukubeka ngokupheleleyo emagxeni abo, kodwa nayiphi na imeko ukuba umtshato abazali, kuba bengakwazi ukufikelela isivumelwano na umzuzu bekhohlisana entlanganweni umtshato wakho, nto leyo shushu uthando kunye nokwandisa amathuba ungquzulwano.

Mini iya kuba xa yakho umsitho womtshato inokuba uvavanyo nzima ngabazali bakho umtshato. Ingase ibuye izinto ezindala kunye neemvakalelo bobabini ndaziva emtshatweni wakhe. Oku kuza kumphezulu intlungu amaphupha ayengenakuzaliseka. Kodwa kwelinye icala, bayazi ukuba ukuya emtshatweni wakho, benza into elungileyo, ukwenza umsebenzi wakho lobuzali, ekuthumeleni umntwana wakhe usithandayo uhambo olude ukuba zokuphila ezizimeleyo.

Bethandana kwaye musa ukulibala ukuba abathandekayo alusoloko usondele nangona zonke. I Sinethemba lokuba emtshatweni wakho uya kuba egqibeleleyo. Ozithobileyo, photographer professional Z Starikov.