The Marriage Ogqibeleleyo

A lot kuxhomekeke noba udibaniso idaliwe ukulungiselela injongo lomtshato, oko kukuthi: umtshato uphumelele okanye hayi. Kuthetha ukuthini? Ukuba uthando lwenza umntu ngokomelela, ngcono, sihle ngakumbi, ukuba iziqingatha ezibini bajoyine ndawonye ukwenza ebumbene, ukuze phakathi kwabo waseka ubudlelwane ngempumelelo. Ukuba umthanda ulinqatha, umgangatho umntu kunye nomsebenzi owenziwa ngabo, ukuba buyaphela, kwaye wonke umntu uziva elilolo kwakhona, uxhulumaniso lusekiwe phakathi kwabo lutshitshe.

Good, uthando ezintle kuzisa uvuyo ephezulu kunye ugcobe. Ukuba akukho uthando, kukho ukubandezeleka, ntlungu, usizi, ukunganeliseki. Ukwahlukana uthando, uthando ngaphandle kuphindaphindeko, ubomi ziingxabano kunye nothando ezingabuyekezekiyo na unobangela wokubandezeleka nodandatheko. Ukuba umntu aneliseke ebomini, yena okanye engamthandi nabani na, okanye zaphoxeka eluthandweni. Uthando - ke wenza ubomi bube nencasa, ukutya ingenatyuwa Ndikruqukile kwaye anetyuwa kakhulu - ezingemnandi. Ekubeni intsingiselo liphezulu uthando intsalela yonke imikhosi zobuchule, kungekuphela nje amandla asetyenziswa ukwenza umzimba wenyama, indoda unyanzelekile ukubuyisela kakuhle kubo, yaye umfazi akanalo ilungelo lokuba kumphazamisa kulo. Nokutsala ukuya kumbindi womhlaba, nokutsala macala imizimba yasezulwini nezinomtsalane ukuba wadala phakathi abathandi ezimbini - le yenye kwaye isenzeko enye, nto leyo esekelwe Space umtsalane, uThixo omkhulu wothando. Ukumanya bonke ubuhlobo umsebenzi usikelelwe, zaphezulu, kuba ayikho kuphela indalo wobomi emzimbeni, kodwa andise ukukhanya jikelele. Ukuba lo msebenzi idlala indima esahlukileyo kunye nabantu bathengise kuphela umzimba kodwa umphefumlo, abatheth sithobeke bacinga nokuphila, zibe nesilima, ukuyiqhayisela nokuyixoka inyaniso.

Ukuba amandla ngokwasengqondweni esijolise zangasese, amaziko ngokwesondo ephakamileyo ebizwa ngokuba yimetabolism isenokucotha, uze yima awe cwaka. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, eli binzana liphezulu ngokomoya ayavalwa baze iphezulu imveliso. Ukuba uthando kuyakha, sisichasi kwenzeka: eyona nangenzondelelo. Yonke impumelelo enkulu sembethe ngamandla amakhulu okudala uthando. Elinciphayo lé bobuchule yokomoya indima nokubaluleka abasetyhini, abantu baye leyo ithintela zokudala amathuba. Njani le impazamo kwenzeka xa umntu? Ngako ke umntu kufuneka uthathe into aye ewu inqanaba eliphezulu kakhulu lokuqonda, yaye kwabasetyhini - iimvakalelo. Kuba ibhetri strong kuyimfuneko ngokulinganayo njengoko ingqondo eyindoda, noqhuba kwipali ezintle ubudoda nababhinqileyo imizwa kwipali engakhiyo nababhinqileyo. Enoba amandla kungekho kwipali ezintle, ukuba ezimbi uya kuba buthathaka, amandla ebhetri kuya kufuneka iziphumo zawo zilinganiswe njengesiphumo negative. Kukwanjalo ke ukuba kwipali ezimbi inamandla, kwaye ezakhayo - ithambile kunjalo, amandla ebhetri uya kulinganiswa incindi buthathaka. Oku kuthetha ukuba xa ekuphelisweni umtshato ufuna ukwenza ibhetri esiluqilima, kubalulekile ukuba ukhethe amandla ulingane nomkhosi ka eyomeleleyo akulambathanga. Ukuba amadoda nabafazi ukuhlola amandla nobuchule babo, kufuneka kunceda omnye, njengoko omnye usoloko ufuna enye, kodwa ke inkoliso kwicala kuphela indima kufuna. olumkileyo, abazi, indlela esintlu-mbini kuphela ukunika isicombululo oluchanekileyo nolufanelekileyo umba. umfazi Ekubeni ohlala iimvakalelo, kunzima ukucinga umntu ngaphandle iimvakalelo. Ngoko ke, umntu umele ukubona umfazi ukuba umthanda. Ke njengendoda alawulwa indima ezingqondweni, lo mfazi kudla kufuneka babuyele asingumntu owabakhoyo ngenxa kwibhunga nengqiqo, ngaloo ndlela uya kuba bamthomalalisa bakhe obungamampunge. Wonke umntu kufuneka uyazi yintoni na iimfuno umfazi wakhe, yintoni iingxaki kunye neminqweno, ubuncinane ngokomkhethe ukwanelisa yaye wamqinisekisa icebiso lakhe ngengqiqo. Women ngokukodwa kufuneka amagama ezintle, cebiso, yaye ngoko ke ukuziphendulela, bonke abanye kuya kuba nako ukumisa ngokwayo.

Umfazi kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba ubunkokheli ukukhethwa bobabo umntu. Ewe, ukugqithisela sezingqondweni nomgwebo ebandayo iza kubonelela isisombululo-naliphi na umba entsonkothileyo ekunene.

Ukuba ubunkokheli ngokukhetha ukudlulisela umfazi-yona usenokugqiba phantsi kwempembelelo iimvakalelo kunye neminqweno, kwaye ngoko ke kunokwenzeka ukuba iza kubhidaniswe iimvakalelo zabo zothando. Ukuba umntu wenze ukhetho, umfazi lula ukufumanisa ngokwakho, ngokusekelwe koko wanyula yakhe, nokuba luthando okanye injongo apha ukubala ukuba singayamkela sipho okanye hayi.
Umfazi kufuneka silumkele ukwenzela ukuba bazisole isigqibo kwixesha elizayo. Xa iziseko yokomoya umntu sele wambumba umntu onjalo, kukuba xa zikhangela kwisiqingatha yakhe. Enyanisweni, uyazi ubukho esiqingatheni sabo yaye yiloo nto umgcina kwi yokhetho. Ngoko ke, makhe yena uyazi, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, makhe kunjani sakhe sonke, yazi, makhe uthembe ingqondo ngenkolelo yokuba kwindawo ethile, mhlawumbi kude, mhlawumbi kakhulu naye isidalwa, intlanganiso leyo ayisoze ukulinda izicwangciso ophilileyo. Ukuba intlanganiso akazange athabathe indawo, ngoko, oko nododobalisa iimeko.

Ukufunwa ubuhlobo nabanye abantu, siye siphephe oku kwangaphambili intlanganiso kunye nesiqingatha yakhe. Ukuze umtshato iyavisisana kufuneka uhambelwano phakathi imizimba, imiphefumlo kunye nomoya amahlakani. Kufuneka ube mnandi omnye komnye emzimbeni kunye nabalinganiswa komdlalo ukuba bakhuthaze abanye kumsebenzi enobuchule, babe iminqweno ezifanayo, wabadlali efanayo kunye nezimvo ezifanayo, kwaye akufuneki angqamane nantoni na umendo bafezeke ngokomoya.

Inani elikhulu labantu abatshatileyo ngokusekelwe on ebonakalayo xa imbonakalo cute kunye iqinelwa ngothando ibe ngunobangela umtshato engaphucukanga; nto ivumelane iintsapho ezinjalo. Ngenxa inani elikhulu kwimitshato kuhlanga bazale. Umntu kufuneka athathe nzulu umtshato, banolwazi, ezo ziziphumo nasekufundweni abatshatileyo kunye nosapho ubomi. Ucwaningo emtshatweni zibonisa ukuba indima ebalulekileyo ukudlala ubudlelwane yokuziphatha, uthando, ukuthembeka, ukunyaniseka kunye nabo ^ commonality ngezimvo komdibaniso usapho.

Uthando lokwenene yenza the lover unina kunye nomhlobo osondeleyo. ingqiqo High uthando umntu oqhuba ngayo bonke ubomi bakhe, yaye akukho uvavanyo unako nako ukuyishukumisa le imvakalelo, ukuba akuzange uphumezo olupheleleyo nkqubo. Umtshato kakhulu umbuzo ngaphezulu kakhulu kunokuba kubonakala. Abaninzi abakholelwa ukuba abantu ezidibene omnye komnye nje kuphela kobu bomi kodwa kubomi babanye hayi nje uxhulumaniso emxinwa, kodwa kananjalo abantwana kunye neentsapho zabo. Ukuba umtshato fixed iyavisisana womelele union, wazalelwa kwintsapho enjalo, abantwana afakwa kunye neempawu kakhulu. Ukuba bume evumelanayo, abantwana bakhule phantsi kakuhle kwaye kufuneka ithuba lokuphucula. Ingakumbi banelungelo lokutshata ngokusekelwe union ngokomoya, kungenjalo amandla ngokwesini kuya umda umendo bafezeke.

Like Karnegi wabhala oku: "Musa ukuba abangafundanga kwimibandela emtshatweni," yaye inyaniso liphezulu. Yintoni na le ntlekele kuphela okanye ukukhathazeka abantu ngenxa yoko. Lo mntu kufuneka ibe uqhelene noko ezinokuvela umphefumlo womntu ubunzima ngokunxulumene komtshato, kananjalo ukwazi ukuba yintoni imisebenzi emitsha kunye namathuba lendile. Simele sazi ukuba lithini ngokuphila, ukuvumisa, ulwazi amanani. Xa umntu ethatha ngaphandle amava, nalwazi, bengabazi nantoni na, unako kuzibulala ngenxa ukhetho yakhe. INtloko yeZiko unxulumano wentsapho e Los Angeles, uGqr Pol Popenou bafunde imbali ziliwaka imitshato. UGqr Popenoe, ongomnye neengcali inkulu kwimibandela emtshatweni, ukholelwa ukuba uqhawulo kwenzeka ngenxa yezizathu ezine, ukuba kubaluleke:

1. Ukungafani Sexual.
2. Ubukho izimvo ezahlukeneyo ngokuphathelele ixesha lokuzonwabisa.
3. ubunzima Financial.
4. ukuthula ngokwasengqondweni, ngokwasemzimbeni okanye zoluvo.

Ngokutsho bophando abahlukeneyo, into yokuqala kuhlala ingatshintshanga, ngoxa abanye ukutshintsha lonke ixesha. Kodwa ke umfanekiso yomfazi Armenian, yakhe ukuzincama egameni kokugcinwa uzinzo losapho, akukho namnye unako ndikukhanyele.

. UGqr JW Hamilton, ngokuhlola ubomi watshata abafazi, kunye namadoda amakhulu, wathi: "Kuphela abanekratshi kakhulu yaye bezithembile iingqikelelo zabo ngengqondo ukuze athi imitshato kakhulu ayiphumelelanga ngenxa yokuba ukubhidana ngokwesondo". Phofu ke, xa iye yaphunyezwa ulwaneliseko ngokwesini, zonke ezinye iingxaki ingasombululwa.

UGqr Butterfield wabhala: "umtshato Unoyolo kunqabile ingozi, oku kubangelwa yomsebenzi abazi, inkqubo ngolwazelelelo kwizilumko.

Abaninzi ufunda oku ukuphikisa oku, ngenxa yokuba kukho iimeko ezingekho akunakwenzeka nje ukuba ukuqikelela kwangaphambili, kodwa ayikwazi zahlelwa. Kule ngongoma uya kubuya.

Abantu abafuni ukuqonda ukuba isenzo sesondo njengesenzo sothando - yenye into, kodwa kukho imfuneko isilwanyana - ngomnye umcimbi. Ngaphezu koko, baye iyaphikisana. Yintoni umahluko phakathi kwabo? uthando lomntu ingqiqo ezingisayo yaye sizimisele njalo ukuba kufutshane ngumthombo uthando lwabo kwaye ukuba yinxalenye kuphela kuye, ngoxa isilwanyana ngumnqweno ukuba ucime indlala wakho ngesondo, kwakungeyomfuneko emva koko into kumnqweno wakhe yena yedwa. Malunga uthando kunye nobudlelwane zothando evela uthando, uGqr Butterfield ubhala athi: "neentlobano ngokwesondo zonke ubudlelwane ezahlukeneyo ukuba utshatile,, ukuba abekho ukuze, akukho okunye kwi ukuze ayikwazi kuba eyodwa ekwenzeni mnandi emtshatweni, kodwa ".

kuvela ubunzima ephambili kukuba xa uqala kuqala ingqikelelo uthando kubhidaniswe nezinye iimpawu ezininzi, singasathethi ke ukholo abaziimfama izithembiso ezingeyonyaniso. Ingakumbi umfazi okhokelwa iimvakalelo zakhe neemvakalelo, kusenokuba kukho ubunzima kwezo meko xa kuyimfuneko ixesha ngokuchanekileyo aseMpumalanga futhi rhoqo emva kwexesha bayazisola izigqibo ezithathiweyo. A, abantu abatsha abangekabi namava abakwazi ukwahlula phakathi uthando, uluvo ezinqwenelekayo, ngeminqweno emihle ngokomoya engaphakathi, uvelwano elula yendalo kunye inkanuko yesini. Yintoni bonke ezi iimvakalelo kusenokwenzeka ukuba wadibana, ikholelwa ukuba uthando yaye kuphela emva kokuba umtshato uyaqonda ukuba wenza impazamo sibi, ityala apho - ukungabi nalwazi, kodwa abaninzi ukubuya akunakwenzeka. Kodwa kukho kwakhona yimitshato sibi embi ngakumbi ukuba eziquka umngcipheko yokufa, nokuba amehlo prying usapho ibonakale ingenangozi. Songqamano loomahlulelane ngcembe ndidiniwe, akaphumeleli ngenxa yengozi okanye wabulawa ngenye indlela kwezinye iimeko.

Bekuya kuba siyazikhohlisa kumngcatsha inattention loo facts kubeka ubomi engozini yokufa, nje ukwanelisa umnqweno. Ngenxa yoko iminyaka emininzi yophando ndibe amatyala abhalisiweyo emininzi imitshato enjalo.

amandla ngokwesini ngokusondeleyo kakhulu enxibelelene amandla ubomi zinamandla. Oku - lingahlala umzimba amandla noloyiso ukuba kuvuka ngendlela ekhethekileyo kunye nempembelelo, yaye ke yena uya ndimlahlele phandle amandla yokuba kunokuba nemiphumo emibi ukuba umntu akayi kuba esithintelweyo emzimbeni, yaye umphefumlo - akukho ngokwaneleyo kuphuhliswa. Umntu kufuneka yendele phila ubomi sex kulinganiswa. Kufuneka kuphela enyulu emzimbeni neyokuziphatha.