Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba abasetyhini abakhulelweyo ukuya emadlakeni kunye nezinye ze oomama.

Ukukhulelwa - eli xesha nje Ithemba into entle, kodwa kananjalo amaxhala. Utshintshe ngokupheleleyo isingqisho yobomi, kuyimfuneko ukuba bayeke ezinye izinto ze bafumane ezintsha, ukucinga nto ngaye kodwa malunga usana elizayo. Ngeli xesha esimnandi oomama ivame kakhulu ukholo kuzo zonke engaqhelekanga kwaye kwemvelo. Kukho iinkolelo ezininzi kunye neenkolelo ukuba abafazi alindele usana ukuba kudluliswe ngomlomo emlonyeni. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba abasetyhini abakhulelweyo ukuya emangcwabeni ukufumana ukucheba okanye hayi ukuthunga okanye ukuluka, kwaye kakhulu ngakumbi. Ubukhulu becala yonke imiqondiso intsukaphi kumaxesha amandulo. Umfazi mihla kufuneka ibe abanolwazi kwaye jonga ngokwaneleyo kwihlabathi. Nokuba kuyimfuneko ukuba abasetyhini abakhulelweyo ukuya emangcwabeni okanye ukulungiselela usana ikhazi nga uncume nto kwaye akukho mntu wumbi.

Eyona nto kukuba inkolelo zonke ezi miqondiso, wena ubhubhe ngokwakho yokuba iinyanga ezilithoba ziya kuba ukoyika kuphela kwaye ukuhlala esoyika ukuba wenze into engalunganga. Ukuba icwangciselwe wena kuyo nayiphi na iinkolelo, ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuzaliseka. Ziziziganeko phakathi nezalamane okanye abahlobo bakho kukho iimeko bamthandayo, ukuba uthi, umzekelo, ukuba abasetyhini abakhulelweyo ukuya emadlakeni, kwakunye ehleli emnyango, ukuluka okanye ukudlala ikati. Makhe sibone ukuba ngubani nto yaye ngubani owangaphakathi luvo yakho inkolelo kubuxoki.

Abantu abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba isisu wayo, akanako nangayiphi na indlela ukuxelela abanye malunga nokukhulelwa. Le umkhethe 'ukufika evela apho abantu amandulo ngaleyo ndlela izama ukukhusela umfazi kunye nomntwana kwimimoya emdaka. Okwangoku, esi siphakamiso zingahlanganiswa kuphela yokunyamekela ukhuseleko ukukhulelwa kunye nokoyikiswa ukuhluleka kwawo ukukhusela abasetyhini imibuzo ezahlukeneyo.

Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba abasetyhini abakhulelweyo ukuya emangcwabeni? Kutheni kungenakwenzeka? Kule meko kukho kuphela iyazise inqanaba lakho enengqondo kunye sengqondo omngcwabo. Cinga ukuba akufanga kufutshane kakhulu umntu, mhlawumbi eneneni kuba ngcono ukuba ahlale ekhaya hayi ukumenzakalisa psyche kwakhona. Kodwa xa ufuna ukuba kuthi ndlela-ntle umhlobo osenyongweni kakhulu, umbuzo wokuba abafazi abakhulelweyo ukuya emadlakeni yaye kufuneka kwenzeke. Akukho sizathu, ngaphandle ze engenangqondo, ukuba uhambe, umzekelo, ngemini sisikhumbuzo engcwabeni nezalamane zabo.

A uphawu ukuba awukwazi usike iinwele liqhagamshelene kuphela ngokokholo nookhokho bethu ukuba zincokole. Okwangoku, akukho bungqina kuba asiyiyo neenkolelo. Ngoko Striga ubumnandi, akabuya kwi kweenyanga ezisithoba efanayo isidalwa vurhongo.

A uphawu neyodwa ayikwazi zingathengwa izinto kwangaphambili ukuba olo sana, kwaye ngokufanelekileyo kuphela ngamaxesha amandulo. Emva koko kwakucingwa ukuba ukuba isinxibo ilungisiwe, ngoko kubonakala ukuba iinjongo zazo kukuba omnye umntu imikhosi, otherworldly, ngenxa yokuba lo mntwana akazange azalwe okwangoku. Ke bonke abafazi mihla kuthenga usana olwaneleyo ikhazi kudala ngaphambi kokuba azalwe. Kutheni bayigcinise kamva kumyeni wayo, unina-in-mthetho, ukuba uyakwazi ukufumana ulonwabo lokwenene ngokhetho zeekawusi ezincinane CAPS kakhulu?

Zonke iintlobo ezeni abasetyhini abakhulelweyo kubona, abantu ugly abafileyo kunye nezinto emabi ezahlukeneyo kwaye musa ukuba izizathu ezaneleyo. Nje oosonzululwazi ndikucebisa ngexesha lokukhulelwa Mhle ezintle, mamela umculo elungileyo yaye ukubukela iimovie elungileyo. Umntwana esizalweni sele Ngokusebenza kunye nehlabathi ngaphandle.

Kukho kwakhona imbono yokuba akunakwenzeka ukuthunga, ukuluka, ekucazululeni le amaqhina kunye nangaphezulu. Kholwani ndim, ukuba azibophelele intambo ayikwazi ukuhlanganiswa kunye kwiiklasi data. ixesha elizayo xa ufuna ukubuza, ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba abasetyhini abakhulelweyo ukuya emangcwabeni okanye ukuzihlalela iimpahla, cinga nje ngendlela, ulahle iinkolelo kunye nezizathu zakhiwe. Vuyani kwaye ukukhulelwa ubumnandi kuphela.