7 izinto kufuneka akasoze athi intombi yakhe

Le ngxoxo iza kuba luncedo kubo bonke - kunye nentombi-in-mthetho. Kwanabo Asikabi nazo ubume ezinjalo, kodwa zaqokelelwa nje. Ubuncinane, sonke xa sibe indima lomtshakazi, yaye emva koko - e-mthetho, size sabelane umntwana wethu nelinye ibhinqa - ungowasemzini, njengokuba unina abaninzi ngamageza. Ngenxa yoko, yonke ingxabano. Ngaba akukho bhetele ukuba ukukhumbula kanye nabo bonke, oko akufuneki kuthi ku-mthetho kunye umakoti ukuba mdala kufuneka silumke uze ufunde imithetho kuqala. Sahamba kwinqaku yonke imikhwa okukruqulayo lwabafazi ngendima uninazala. Ukuze ezinye oku kuza lokuposa.

Akuyomfuneko

Abafazi ababini kwi ekhitshini - oku ke ekuqaleni ungquzulwano. Uye ezifakwe kummandla wabo kanye yaye zonke izinto yaye akukho namnye awunako ukuba bango amalungelo afanayo. Kukho uluvo lokuba kubhetele ukuba kude. Ingaba ilungile? Ewe akukho. Indlela uyakwazi ukuthintela oomama nomdla kwimicimbi unyana wakhe kunye nosapho lwakhe, ukunceda iBhunga kwaye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, kunjalo. Kodwa! Akukho mfuneko ukucebisa yonke umzuzu ukwenza njalo-and-njalo. Akukho mfuneko ukutshintsha demonstrably intombi ukuba oko ukwenzile. Ngokomzekelo, yena hung yokuhlamba - kwaye ongazithandiyo, yaye wena kudlule. Ngokuphathelele icebiso - ukuba kulungile xa ucele. Kungenjalo, le nto cebiso, kunye lathisi, ukuba baphile apho kungekho mntu uthanda.

Ndiyazi ukuba ikho

Awukwazi ityala nani yokuba ufuna ukugcina indlu phantsi kolawulo. Wena - umntu isizukulwana abadala, yaye wena sakubona - ngabazali babo, ngoko indoda yakhe kunye nabazali bakhe. Ngoku lithuba lakho. Kodwa ngequbuliso babone ukuba imisebenzi yakho lokongamela hayi bayafunwa, yintoni eyona, ukuba ekukruqulayo wonke. Yintoni ukwenza ntoni? Ukuba awufuni kuwabhuqa ubudlelwane kunye nabantwana, yima lonke ixesha ncedo intombi nonyana, kwaye nomawukwenze, indlela ukuhamba nendlela ukuba ahlale. Ekugqibeleni, oku kuya kukhokelela iingxabano ezinkulu kuphela phakathi wena nentombi yakho, kodwa phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Ngaba nani nifuna ukuba ndimaphule nomphefumlo wonyana wakhe?

NguNyana wam oyintanda

Kakade ke, akukho mntu uthanda ngakumbi kunawe. Kodwa akuyomfuneko ukuphinda umfazi wakhe, uyazi unyana wakhe olungileyo kunaye, ukuba nje uyazi ukondla njani, uzinxibe, indlela yokusingatha ngayo. Wakuba khumbula igama umhlobo wakhe esikolweni, yintoni uphawula nanako chemistry, kutheni akazange anxibe iikawusi ... Ngamafutshane, usebenzisa naliphi na ithuba lokubonisa ukuba unyana wakhe uyayazi okuninzi ngaphezu abenaso. Kholwani ndim, ngeendlela ezininzi intombi uzazi bhetele kunawe. Yena, hayi wena, bayityhilelweyo ngoku kwiikona ezahlukeneyo. Kuba wena, kusenjalo umntwana, kwaye ngenxa yakhe - umyeni, utata, ndoda inqwenelekayo. Mnike ilungelo lokuba abe ngumfazi. Nangona ngokwabo eseleyo unina - okrelekrele zibhuqe.

Indlela ukufundisa abazukulwana

Xa umntwana ivela kwi ndawo - unazo zonke imo entsha ibonakala. Wena - a ugogo ukhumbula ukuba swaddle indlela usana, nangendlela endinokuwucima ngayo embizeni, yintoni ukunxiba, indlela ukuhamba naye. Yaye ngaba kwakhona usebenzisa lonke ithuba lokuba ubonise ukuba intombi yakho nto kule nto ukuqonda? Musa ufuna ukunika iingcebiso nangawuphina umzuzu, kuze kuthi ukuba ayikwazi ukumelana naye umntwana. Kufuneka uqaphele ukuba phambi kwakho - ke umama lowo akayi ukulimaza umntwana wakho. Uyazi lithe kakhulu indlela yokukhulisa umntwana. Ewe, kunye neendlela zenu, ukuze oko ngokuzolileyo, ingaba sele siphelelwe lixesha, njengendlela okufanayo abantwana inkathalo. Nceda kunokuba ungakwazi ke intombi phumla, ukuhamba kunye usana xa ithe lixakekile okanye udiniwe - kodwa kuphela kungokuvumelana. Ngapha koko, umahluko ezingalunganga abadala kunye nomntwana, kakhulu.

Xa ndandiselula ...

Le kwesono bonke. Ndithanda ukuba ukukhumbula oko emhlophe kunye anoboya, yaye kunzima ukuba ubomi. Ubuncinane, oko alufanelekanga. Kwaye li ngeedosi ezinkulu. Mhlawumbi wena tye, yaye ubomi lula kangaka, yaye mna nomyeni wam aphathwe ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kunye noonyana ongazange waba. Kodwa amaxesha ukulutshintsha, uze utshintshe abantu. Wena kodwa waqonda ukuba isizukulwana eyahlukileyo, ukuba uthi - kwenye iplanethi? Ewe, kunjalo, ubomi nzima ebutsheni bakho. Kwaye ngoko kutheni uyifaka umzekelo? Ngaba nani nifuna ukuba ubomi oselula kakhulu kwaba nzima? Ngoko ke eli binzana - "kodwa kweli xesha lethu" - ungenza ngokukhawuleza ndlela aluvumelekanga. Ndikholelwe, enkosi engobomi yakho loyikekayo, uya angalibali. Thetha ebutsheni babo mathuba ezahlukeneyo, Kakade ke, kuyimfuneko, kodwa kufuneka zibe ngohlobo kwesifundo.

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Yena akazange ulichule ekuyidlaleni

Ukuba agxeke unyana wakhe phambi umfazi wakhe, nkqu jest, ukuba akukho ezilungileyo kuyo ngeke. Isenokuba akakhubeki yena kuphela, kodwa intombi yakho. Qonda ukuba - umfazi owenza lo mntu nabanyuliweyo. Makungaziwa enhle - bafanele ukujongana noku. Kodwa ezinomnyinyivane ukuguquguquka kwakhe into, nokuba ngunina, yena ngeke akuvumele. Kwaye ukuba ubunzima, unako ukusebenzisa amazwi akho njenge ukukhalinyelwa kwindoda yakhe. Yini na ukuba bahlale kufuphi? Kuphephe ukuphakamisa lo mbuzo. Ewe, ufuna ukuhlala kufuphi, kodwa kuyenzeka kunqabile. Kufuneka Abantwana abahlala apho ukhetha, kufutshane umsebenzi wakhe. Ke ukuba bathe bahlala komnye umzi - kakuhle, kufuneka ukubeka up le. Ngethamsanqa, oku ixesha xa kwafuneka alinde kwalishumi xa ubatsalela umnxeba okanye ileta. iindlela Modern zokunxibelelana lula kakhulu unxibelelwano phakathi nabantu ababathandayo. Kwaye, ngeliphandle ukuthetha, ngokuba bonke kuya kuba ngcono ukuba ninakho, ukuqhela. Kwaye ke ulwalamano iya kuba ngcono, yaye le ntsapho iyonke iya kuba asondele kakhulu omnye komnye. Unyamezelo nobulumko kuwe!