Ngawo onke amaxesha, abantwana bazalwa rhoqo, kwaye ngaphandle ingqalelo umba abazali. Oku nje ke akuyomfuneko. Kodwa into etshintshileyo ngokucacileyo imeko namhlanje bemicimbi. Yintoni isizathu sokuba lo mbuzo njani ukuba uzale abantwana, sele izandi buhlungu ngenxa kuluntu lwethu, kwaye lithemba? Andiyi ndachukumisa phezu iingxaki ngemvelo, ezempilo kunye namathuba zemali. Bona, Kakade ke, kubalulekile, kodwa musa i kubaluleke kakhulu kangaka. Kungenjalo, bekuya kuba akukho elumelwaneni lwaloo iintsapho ezinkulu, apho kakuhle ukuba Kunzima ukuthetha khona. Ndiyakholwa ukuba ingcambu unobangela kufuneka kufunwe ayikho apha.
Ukusuka amava yam ndiya Ndingathi ukuba uninzi oonobangela lokungaphumeleli zethu, yamashwa nkqu sifo thina, yaye oko engqondweni yethu, psyche kunye neengcinga zethu. Kwenza akukho mqondo abaleqa kwakhona funda-onke amanqaku kwi ukukhulelwa, amehlo ndilangazelela ukuba ahambe oomama kunye strollers, yaye ngakumbi ubunzima kuzo zonke iindlela zemveli nkqu uzicinge kwesisu. Andikwazi akuqinisekisi ukuba uya kuba ezilikhulu ekhulwini impumelelo, kodwa uya kuvavanywa yokuqala baze abaninzi wemiba izakulahleka bebodwa. Musa ukuvumela abasemzini izinto ezichaphazela ubomi bakho. Nantso imfihlelo iintsapho kunye nabantwana abaninzi, abazange babezibuza ngendlela nabantwana.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, amayeza nje namandla ukuseka unobangela ukungachumi. Kungenzeka, ingxaki yokuqala aphambili apha - ukuba uloyiko kunye kukuhla kunyuka rhoqo ukuba abe nomntwana kwaphela. Cubungula! Kwiminyaka eli-15, ukuba uyoyika ukukhulelwa kwangethuba, kwaye besoyika. Ngelo Institute, nibe abazali ukoyika aziyi kukunceda baphikayo abazukulwana, kwaye nangoku zange ziphuhliswe. Emva high school kwafuneka ukuba aphakame, ukwakha umsebenzi, ukufumana isithuba ophilileyo, intuthuzelo njalo njalo. Ngandlel 'kwakungekho xesha, umnqweno kunye nethuba. Ngoko ke, ngaba unikwa ebeka emzimbeni wakho ukuba abantwana nje angafunekiyo. Ngelo xesha linye wamnika ngexesha imisebenzi esisiseko yobomi zazijoliswe ukuzala.
Ngoko ke, umsebenzi wakho kuqala na ukuba ugqibile ngokwayo. Ukuze wenze oku, kufuneka uncothule ngokwabo ufakelo agxile kakhulu kwaye kuzilungelelanisa kwiinzame zazo imikhosi, iingcinga kunye nemiyalezo eyenza kwicala elifanelekileyo. uhlobo lakho esobukhomokazi oyinyaniso uya kukunceda, ukukhulula nje xa wena, yima ngozipho ixesha yakhe yembizo, iwonga kunye nesikhundla. Kwaye ayeke zizibeke icala yonke nokuba amanyathelo okuzama imibuzo ezahlukeneyo. Ngokufutshane, abe free!
Umba elandelayo kubalulekile - iphindwe ad ngoluvo ngokukruqulayo ukuba, ukuba abantwana ngenxa yothando kunye akukho wumbi. Ngokutsho imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla, oko akunjalo. Kodwa ke kukho enye "kodwa." Xa uphupha umntwana, intuthuzelo usapho, intlalo-ntle ebomini bakho entsha thaca, ukuba azale umntwana ngokwenene kufuneka ukuba uthando. iingcinga zakho, isimo, sinqwenela ukunika isicwangciso kuqala yaye zinzulu ukuze kwakhiwe umntu omtsha. Kunye nothando - mqondo unamandla, ayinyaniso, zokudala entle nje. Ngesi ufakelo lokuqala lomntu uya kuhamba ngale bomi nzima nentembelo ngakumbi, kuba sele ebekwe kuyo ilangatye ulonwabo. Kwaye akukho nto ukuphatha ukuba ukugcina kakuhle-ntle yakho buqu kunye ozithandayo lweentsapho. Ngelishwa, oko alusoloko lusebenza ngendlela oyifunayo. Kodwa wazama oku, kwaye oku kubalulekile.
Njani abe nabantwana? Kubalulekile ukuba lo mba ofunwa kuphela malunga umama okhulelweyo, kodwa uyise elizayo. Kunyanzelekile ukuba umntwana kunye ndoda yafuna. Kwaye hayi nje nje, umzekelo, njengokuba ezihlangwini libhongo iintlobo, ukuzeyisa lokuphumeza, kodwa iqhekeza, baqhubeka bona kunye nothando lwabo umfazi. Amaxesha amaninzi ufuna unina womntwana, kwaye umntu kwimeko kakhulu uthanda nje yaye uyavuma nayo. Kwaye kholwa ndim, ukuba kunzima ukulwa. Kodwa lihamba kwelo cala ezixabisa kakhulu kunene. Ukuba umyeni wakho akayi ukwabelana nani uvuyo nakukulindela mntwana, akayi kuba nako ukwabelana nawe kunye iingxaki zaloo minyaka yokuqala yobomi yosana. Ukuba uyise akumenzi ngabahlobo usana, ngoko ekugqibeleni ukufumana ulwimi eqhelekileyo itakane lebhokhwe, kwaye uya kuba nzima ngakumbi. Ngoko ke musa ungaphoswa ithuba ukutsala ingqalelo yabantu bakho kumba lokuzalwa komntwana. Soloko ukwabelana ukukhathazeka kwakho cinga uluvo lwakhe. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu bonke.
Akukho lula ukuze kwenziwe, njengoko isitsho njalo intetho. Kodwa ukuba uphathe ukusombulula ezi bokuqonda ezisisiseko ngakumbi sele uthando lwakho kunye nomnqweno ukwenza ukuxhokonxa kwicala elifanelekileyo. Uya kwandula ufumane ngokwakho isisombululo ekunene intsapho yakho ethile. Ke ngamava abanye tips ziya kuba ngokungeyomfuneko kuwe. Funda ukuba imeko yakho ngaphakathi, ubunzulu entliziyweni, ukuba zonke iimfuno zakho zobuqu kunye neemfuno. Ke uya kukwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezizizo wena kunye nosapho lwakho.
Linokuchazwa imeko eziyingxaki zinezibonelelo yayo. Ngapha koko, nje kanye ukubuza umbuzo wokuba ingaba umntwana ukwenza, sele libeka lwabazali sengqondo noxanduva lo mba. Kwaye ukuba ngaphambi kokuba le nkqubo washiywa ngokupheleleyo kukunyamekela kaThixo, ngoku isibini amabhere kunye noxanduva yokuziphatha ukuze umntu omtsha. Ngoko ke, impendulo engundoqo umbuzo njani ukuba uzale abantwana kwiintsapho namhlanje, ngokoluvo lwam, kufuneka ube: "Ekubeni imbopheleleko enkulu." Nazi sengqondo nje noxanduva ethile usoloko urhuqa kunye neengxaki ezongezelelweyo. Kodwa musa ukuphelelwa lithemba, yisa nje kwicala elifanelekileyo kwaye njalo kuzo wena. Kwaye kufuneka zonke ezo nto zibuyela ngaphandle.
Akukho konke okusemandleni ethu, kodwa into yokuba singakwazi yaye siza. Ngoko ke musa ukulibala mzekeliso: "Kholosa kuThixo, yaye abo asina!" luck ezimnandi wena nosapho lwakho!