Indlela ukuba asinde yokwahlukana intombi

Lifikile ixesha, xa nahlukana othandiweyo wakho, kodwa kude kube mzuzu wokugqibela ube ukholwa ngokwenene ukuba ubudlelwane basandula emangalisayo, yaye ukungcola awusoze kuza. Kungakhathaliseki, bazikhupha ngabani ukuba ikhangeleka agxeke, kufikwa nje ezimbini kuni. Izizathu ingaba isixa esikhulu, kodwa ayibalulekanga. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba akukho elide kunye.

Indlela ukusinda yokwahlukana le ntombazana? Ukusuka leyo onesimo kwezehlo umphefumlo engathandi uhlala intlenga ngohlobo yokuvela neenkumbulo, intliziyo yabo nto leyo ke kaninzi ibetha kwaye iba buhlungu, kwaye wam ulangazelela intliziyo. Ukuqalisa, nonke nina kufuneka - kukuzama ukulibala intombazana. Yenza kube nzima, kodwa eli nyathelo kuyimfuneko ukuya phambili ebomini. Ukuze sisinde yokwahlukana intombazana, uhlale phantsi uze ube ucinga elungileyo, kwaye kufuneka ukuba kangangoko ocingela ukuba amele. Mhlawumbi imvakalelo kwakudala uthando, kodwa ukuba banenzondelelo yempambano kuphela. Mhlawumbi ukuba uthanda kuphela umfanekiso, hayi le ndoda, okanye ngaba intloko izithende uthandana emzimbeni wakhe, kwaye umlinganiswa akanamdla. Akholwe ngokwam ukuba ubudlelwane ezinjalo ngomnye unyaka kusekho ukuba nantoni na kungakhokelela okulungileyo. Musani ukuba buhlungu, loo nto yonke aphumileyo, ndiyavuya ukuba yayinguwe.

Yokujonga lento phandle ukuba ukuphila ngendlela imalile kunye nentombi, ukubalaselisa iingenelo ukuba esiyifumene ngenxa yokuba ezi ubudlelwane ziye. Okokuqala, ubuya soze iwuxhokonxileyo ngoko iingqondo babengayi ukuphuhlisa nengqikelelo yabo isigqibo yokumthengela ngenxa iholide. Bendingayi ndiye endaweni yokubonela, besiya zange ndeva iingoma ezimnandi kwaye ngeke ukwazi eninzi oyithandayo umdla. Kuba oku sele kunokwenzeka ukuthi "enkosi." Ngaphezu koko, ngoku uyazi ngokupheleleyo isizathu sokuba kulwalamano uphazamiseke, yaye yintoni izenzo kukwenza basinde yokwahlukana intombazana. Kwixesha elizayo, ezifana awuyi kuvunyelwa ukuba zenzeke. Isiphelo ngokwayo uyalela ukuba endleleni, njalo njalo, esebenzisa ngamava akhe, khangela layo nje kuphela, yaye musa ukuzama ukubuyisela yangaphambili. Kholwani ndim, akukho nto iza kukunceda ukuba ucinge ukuze sisinde indlela yokwahlukana kunye wakhe amthandayo intombazana ngathi ukucinga ukuba umthandi elitsha.

Akukho mfuneko ukubuza umbuzo othi "Ngubani na ityala", "Ngoku ndiza kuyenza," "ukuguqula indlela umva le iwotshi," njl Smer nesibakala sokuba uthando sele udlule, njengoko ixesha osele eyadlulayo bangabuya. Kwaye ukuze ukulibala ngokukhawuleza wenza ntoni, wabeka ekhayeni labo, balilahlela phandle yonke into likukhumbuza elidlulileyo, sula ifowuni yakho imiyalezo uze ucime zonke iifoto kwikhompuyutha yakho. Akwaphalala nalinye ilizwi, hayi umlinganiswa othile okanye into musa ukuba uzikhumbuze ukuba uthando lwakho ngaphambili.

Hayi ukucinga, ukuze usinde indlela yokwahlukana kunye nentombi, Ukulibale nje ngayo, sixelele malunga ikhefu yakhe yonke abahlobo bam kunye nezihlobo. Thandazela ukuba lonke ixesha odibana nabo inkxaso. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo - musa uqale kakubi utywala, njengoko abaninzi. Oku kuya kubangela kuphela imvakalelo Ndandizisola emehlweni abahlobo bakho, ngubani ukuze ufumane yenkolelo engamanga ukuba wimp, bedanduluka - for "abafazi". Yonke into endingayenzanga ke kuso ukuba ngcono. Ukuze kulungiswe ingxaki 'ukuze sisinde indlela yokwahlukana kunye nentombi yam, "umntu ethatha inyanga, umntu ngonyaka, yaye abanye yonke. Noko ke, emva kweentsuku 10-12 akuyi rhoqo ecinga ilahleko yakhe, kodwa emva kweeveki ezimbini ufanele ukwazi ukuqala ubomi obutsha. Zama ukuba ahlale ekhaya ngeli xesha kuphela, yaye ukuba asekhona, musa ukuthandabuza, ukubhala phantsi iingcinga zakho ephepheni. Ewe, kunjalo ephepheni. Fumana idayari, okanye iphephancwadi "ophilayo" kwi-Internet. Unxibelelwano nabantu abangabazi abaza kubanika iingcebiso kunceda ukuze ufumane isicombululo elungileyo, ukuze usinde indlela yokwahlukana kunye nentombi.

Enye indlela gqitha ukutyelela lokuzilolonga. Oku kuya kukunika ithemba enkulu wavuswa bakulindeleyo yintoni kwenzeke ukuba ufumane ngokupheleleyo yonke into ofuna ebomini bakho. Kwaye khumbula ukuba wena indoda ekwaziyo kakhulu ngakumbi.